Glass half full

Glasses, some empty, some partially filled with water, so many glasses…strewn around the house.  A glass in the living room, a couple in the family room, errant ones in the bedrooms upstairs, on their desks. In the basement, in the washrooms. On the coffee table, on the side tables.  On the kitchen table, on the counter. On the dining room table. All parked as evidence of minutes spent in each space.

“Whose glasses are these?  These kids grrrr ”…hubby would say.  And then plunk the offending glassware into the dishwasher.

They used to be plastic cups.  We donated the plastics a while ago after the kids outgrew them. They settled into teenhood and graduated to breakables.

We became a household without teenagers just days ago.  Twenty years whipped by in a flash.

As I get up from the family room couch to pour myself another cup of coffee, I realize how many times I’ve heard, “Hey Mom, while you’re up will you get me some water?” 

And as a mother does, I’ve responded, “Sure, sweetie.”

We are taking the firstborn to the airport this morning – in two cars as he has that much luggage.  He’s starting a new life thousands of kilometres away.

I will be driving the baby of the family back to school tomorrow – in one car, packed with necessities for the next term.  Not as far away as her brother. Not as permanently, but away nonetheless.

Exciting times for both of them, I know.

Come Monday, I know a part of me will long to see a random glass.

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Happy New Year – and my first read of 2025!

I realize we are still in the midst of holiday break, but I hope the holiday season has been a good one for you, and that your 2025 is off to a great start.

I tried hard to finish up my current read before the strike of midnight on Dec 31 but alas, I didn’t have time to finish up those last 20 pages. They snuck into January 1. I failed at my Goodreads reading challenge for 2024 by 8 books! Considering the extra time I had in 2024, I don’t even know why my book count was less than that for 2023. So I am setting my target at a more do-able ( at least for me!) level for 2025.

I also waited too long to take advantage of a discounted upgrade for this blog on WordPress. I don’t like all those pesky ads, and I anticipate they are a pain for any readers of my little space here. So thank you for your patience while I await the next wave of promo codes.

My first book review of 2025 is for “The Life Cycle of the Common Octopus” by Emma Knight, What an awesome title for a book! Not long ago, I watched a couple of wonderful documentaries about the octopus ( “My Octopus Teacher “on Netflix; “Secrets of the Octopus” on Disney) so I was drawn to this book due to this recent fascination. Here is my brief review of the book:

Pen (Penelope) and Alice, her best friend since childhood, attend the University of Edinburgh together as first year students.  They are a long way from their home, Toronto, Canada.  Pen was drawn to Scotland by a feeling of connection she has with a famous writer who lives there, an old friend of her father’s, Lord Elliott Lennox. 

Pen has never met Lennox and suspects that her divorced parents are hiding something from her about their association. Particularly since her middle name is Elliott (yeah, a little obvious? We’ll see…). After Pen reaches out, Lennox invites her to his home where she meets various members of his welcoming family. Pen develops romantic feelings for the very first time, for Lennox’s older son, Sasha. (Note – there’s a lot of earnest heart quickening and physical attraction reactions every time young Sasha comes into the room, so perhaps this is more of a YA offering). We follow Pen as she tries to uncover secrets that may lie with this family.  She also starts to see her parents in a different light, envisioning them as students and what their lives were like when they were young.

Alice is an aspiring actress who is acting in the university play.  She is confident in personality and quite beautiful, so used to having power in her relationships with men.  Alice starts an affair with her tutor which may prove her undoing.

Their university lives are described with the chapters split out by season/school terms. They develop friend groups, experience a new life with the backdrop of Scotland – the studying, the partying, the sex. We see them  deal with bigger issues,  and look at adults with new eyes as they mature themselves.

I enjoyed Emma Knight’s writing style, her descriptions provided the right amount of detail.  I remained interested enough to appreciate the secret as it unfolded for Pen (and the clues that were sprinkled into the storyline).  The title of the book was part of the initial draw of this book for me, and the tie-in comes in quite late. I was much less interested in the character of Alice and her relationship with her tutor. Although Alice’s experience is not uncommon and an important one, I felt there wasn’t enough room for it given how much material was in the Pen storyline alone.  I did enjoy the relationship between the two girls when they were together – you could sense the sisterhood.  However, there were also some other subplots that distracted rather than added to the story.

Because it took me a little while to get into it, I rate this a 3.5 but closer to a 3 star. 

Thank you to Penguin Random House and Netgalley for an ARC for an honest review.  Publication date will be January 7, 2025.

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Learning to fly

Around this time twenty four years ago, we were introducing my son to solids.

He graduated to using utensils on his own. Winnie, then Blues Clues, and Paddington were favourites.

But with so much to explore, so many things to do, he would need some prompting to focus on the task at hand. The airplane came in handy … ‘whoosh, whoosh, … coming in fast, open-wide”!

Worked every time.

He’s always been a great eater. He loves to travel.

And come January he will be leaving on an airplane on an exciting new path.

(the decluttering and the melancholy continues…)

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A Case for the Existence of God

(So this post was sitting unpublished in my drafts! I am still getting used to WordPress – contemplating making this space more official as a domain and curate it a little more. I need the practice!)

What a fantastic play. Two young actors, 85 minutes, on a set that consists of a desk and two chairs portraying a cubicle. Developing a deep platonic male friendship through their experiences as young fathers. I laughed, and cried, and was so moved.

We saw Noah Reid, the actor from Schitt’s Creek, on Breakfast Television a few weeks ago, talking about this show that he would be performing in. He was so wonderful as Patrick, David’s spouse. I’ve been following his career a little since his work on that hilarious series. He’s also a very talented singer. My husband happened to walk by during the interview as the plot was being described.

“Let’s go see it” he said to me. I was gobsmacked. My husband does not do theatre. He absolutely hates musicals so granted this was not one. Well, he did go to American Idiot (Green Day) and Jagged Little Pill (Alanis Morissette) with me, so those were exceptions. The focus on fatherhood in this play intrigued him.

But back to this – we saw this at the Coal Mine Theatre, an intimate venue that has been in existence for 10 years but not long in its current location. The max capacity is 120 seats – it looked like about 75-80 seats last night. It was sold out. Such a unique experience. We were so impressed and are looking forward to other such shows in the future. It was worth the trek through bad traffic into the city on a Friday night.

The play was written by Samuel Hunter, who also wrote “The Whale” – yes, that story that was huge as a movie at the Oscars a couple of years ago. A great writer. And Noah Reid as Ryan and Mazin Elsadig as Keith – what fantastic Canadian talent!

An amazing Friday date night roundup to end my NaBloPoMo 2024 run. For those new readers who have visited, thanks for stopping by. I hope you had a wonderful November, I’ve enjoyed reading new blogs! I plan to keep blogging now, and not wait another couple of years for the next post.

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I Died on a Tuesday by Jane Corry- A Book Review

Three individuals somehow connected to one singular tragic event.

Janie. Robbie. Vanessa.

Janie is a young 18-year-old woman from a small town on the cusp of launching a new life, with dream job in the city of London waiting for her. But she is tragically ploughed down by a van in a hit-and-run and left for dead.

Robbie is huge popstar with a lovely home, wife and two kids, living the dream life. He is a celebrity, but well respected, known for being an upstanding citizen and family man. Twenty years after the incident, Robbie is arrested and charged for hitting Janie. He goes willingly with police and accepts the charges with no denials. He has been running from this for two decades and it has caught up with him. But is he guilty?

Janie is not dead, and survived even after being in a coma. Although severely injured and maimed, and not able to speak, she wants to be involved in the justice process. Is she a reliable witness so many years later? How accurate is her memory in her current state?

Vanessa, a lady who lives in the small town, works as support for witnesses attending court proceedings. Vanessa has a complicated back story of her own and is tied to this incident in more ways than one.

This story had so many twists and turns, but it was not hard to follow. Several points of view were used, and there were many characters involved beyond the main three. I was pleasantly surprised by a couple of revelations, as I can usually tell what is coming up based on the author’s writing and clues. The author was able to cleverly weave the connections together. You had to stretch your imagination a little in some cases as there were a lot of coincidences. But that might just be expected in a small town.

I give this a solid 3. I have not read any other Jane Corry books, so this has piqued my curiosity about them. I do like a good mystery. Thanks to NetGalley and Penguin Random House Canada for an advanced copy for an honest review.

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Holiday planters and not momming

I finally got into some of the Christmas spirit this weekend. Normally I get very excited as soon as December 1 hits. This year it’s taking me longer, I’m just not feeling it.

I can’t believe Christmas is just over two weeks away. We are hosting my family for Christmas dinner this year. We’ll have about 20 people here. I need to decorate the house. I also need to declutter about 24 years of stuff to prepare for the renovation in January. My husband is doing the majority of the booking, planning and sourcing for the renovation, but I am stressing about all that has to be done with our “stuff” to empty the rooms for the reno.

We are renovating 4 rooms. Getting rid of popcorn ceilings, adding new lighting, new paint, new fireplace and replacing wood floors. I had a meltdown about the floors – my husband is very particular about this stuff. I don’t care as long as it is decent looking and hardy enough, I don’t want to spend a mint. Anything is better than the parquet we currently have. It’s just floor and we’ve lived here for 24 years – I doubt we or our kids, will be living here for another 24. I’m pragmatic. Four rooms of floor is a lot of wood which is not cheap these days.

I don’t think the meltdown was about the floor though. It hit me this weekend that in less than a month, my baby boy will be literally flying away, leaving the nest. He is starting a new life over 2500 miles away. I’m proud and happy for him, but I’m a tiny bit heartbroken at the same time. It’s a happy/sad milestone for me as a mother.

He was downtown this weekend but came home mid-Sunday afternoon while I was out getting groceries. He asked if I could pick up some coconut milk for a snack he was making. While I was out, I picked out some greenery to make holiday planters for our entrance. He called me and texted a few times when I took too long. My phone did not vibrate (I hate notifications). I guess since I was only a 5 minute drive away, not showing up over an hour later was a bit concerning!

The planters are done – cost me only $28 for both! Seeing as the Costco planters are about $40 a piece I’d say this was not a bad effort. Sometimes keeping stuff year over year, is a good thing (yes I am a packrat, hence the stress – see above – about decluttering!)

“The planters look great mom! When you come in, I can’t wait for you to try the ramen with the chili crisp coconut Thai sauce that I made”

Yeah, that’s what I’m going to miss.

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Favourite Daughter – A book review

Favorite Daughter by Morgan Dick

My rating: 3 of 5 stars


Mickey is a kindergarten teacher, who loves her job, but is a damaged soul. She grew up living with her single mother, after being abandoned suddenly by a father who she remembers worshipping before he just left. Her relationship with her mom is strained. She lives paycheque to paycheque.
Arlo is a psychologist who is experiencing the loss of her father after a prolonged illness. She was his primary caregiver once he got sick, and she worshipped him. She grew up with the best of everything as her dad was rich. Her relationship with her mother is not great – her mom most interested in spending the money of her wealthy father.

Where do these stories intersect? Mickey and Arlo are half-sisters – they share a father. A father who dies and leaves most of his fortune to Mickey, the daughter he abandoned, and he cuts Arlo out of his will entirely. The only condition that Mickey must fulfill to cash in on millions is that she must attend counselling with – yes, you’ve got it – Arlo. Unbeknownst to either of them that they are related at the beginning, the story goes from there. Will they find out, how will they react, what will happen?
I really appreciated the concept of this story. The book got off to a great start, focusing on Mickey and her life; she is an unlikeable character, very flawed, but seemingly has a heart of gold as she is a kindergarten teacher. Who seems to be well loved by her students – if she could only keep her personal life straight. You can’t help but feel for her as she was abandoned at a young age – but she keeps on spiraling, even as she has this fortune sitting in front of her.

Arlo as a character seems just too good to be true – are psychologists always at the ready to try to fix/help people? She seems to accept the fact that she is cut out of the will with more curiosity rather than anger. At least that’s the way I read it. I couldn’t sympathize with her much either based on her actions.
All of the characters seemed too closely knit, and kept showing up in each other’s lives so randomly, with paths crossing so conveniently (the sisters, the ex, the neighbour etc..). It helped move the story along, but I didn’t really engage with any of the characters enough to feel for any of them. Especially the lawyer, gross guy, into meditation and therapy but then brokering the deal/will between both sisters. And the romance thrown in there for Mickey as possibility with her student’s uncle. A lot of different paths for the story to take, probably too many, and not enough novel to explore all of them that effectively.
The writing of the dialogue and emotions were good, and the plot line had promise. A solid 3- it is worth a read. Thank you to Penguin Random House and NetGalley for the advanced copy for an honest review.




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The Lotus Shoes – a Book review

The Lotus Shoes by Jane Yang

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


A tale of two young girls as they grow into young women in 1800s China. A time when the best chances for women to succeed in life were to marry well, hopefully into a noble family of high standing. The chances of that were amplified if your feet were bound- a sign of a girl being from a good family (ladies didn’t have to work) and a beauty standard. These tiny feet were known as golden lilies, that would fit into pretty “lotus shoes”.

Little Flower, has had her feet bound from a young age as her mother was preparing her for future prospects of a good marriage. Due to hard times, her mother is forced to sell Little Flower to a family where she becomes the muizai, an indentured servant to the LinJing, the young daughter of the first wife of a noble family. The promise is that she will be freed once they find a suitable marriage for Little Flower when she comes of age. Little Flower is a slave girl to LinJing, to be at her beck and call. She is a sweet girl who LinJing’s mother takes an automatic liking to.

What follows is a story of hardship and tragedy, envy and jealousy as the two girls grow up together. Are they close? They share a bond due to their lot in life as women in a man’s world, dealing with class and family obligations and expectations, and centuries old traditions. I had no idea of the absolute brutality of the system of servitude and what women had to do (and had to do to each other!) to survive. The relationship between LinJing and Little Flower is forced upon them, and each have their own struggles that force them to choose between themselves and each other. Is a friendship or a close relationship even possible? All of this while the modern world and views of the West are fast approaching, and women in general are forging more independence. Foot binding as a practice is becoming a signal of the old world.

I absolutely loved this book. I am Canadian born Chinese. My mother has told me of her own muizai (a girl of her age who was her personal servant) that she had when she was a young girl, before the Japanese attacked China in the 1940s. This girl had to do everything at my mother’s bidding. My grandmother freed all of their indentured servants during that war. My grandfather had several wives. My mom came from a well to do family, but she grew into a very modern career woman despite growing up with all brothers in a man’s world. This book made me appreciate even more how hard she had to fight for everything she has accomplished based on her start in China/Hong Kong.

The story, the beautiful descriptions with amazing sensory detail and emotional pull of the characters, the historical detail … it all had me hooked from the very first page. Highly recommended. Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Collins Canada for an advanced copy for review.




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Sleep wars

Daily writing prompt
Are you more of a night or morning person?
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Darn, I missed my Friday post! I was supposed to write it after I got home from my Friday evening outing (will be in my bonus post..). But I went to bed to read. So I dropped the NaBloPoMo ball for the first time I’ve ever participated. I won’t beat myself up over it – after all, kindness starts at home.

So in answer to the prompt – I am likely more of a morning person. Who likes to stay up late at night. Herein lies the problem. Lack of sleep.

I am a morning person, but an extroverted introvert at parties. I’m usually the last to leave a good party too. I like watching late night TV. I will read late into the night. My husband is definitely NOT a morning person, and is usually the first to bed.

On the flip side, I find the quiet mornings are a time for me to reflect, before any movement in the house, to relax a bit and plan before the day gets going. I sit with my coffee, do some DuoLingo, watch some early morning television (Breakfast Television, which gives me a positive boost – and was where we discovered the play that I will write about in the next post). And get on my other screen(s). Occasionally blog like today.

We both wear FitBits and for a time there was a friendly rivalry. Until it became not so friendly. I once got a sleep score of 80 (good) after 5 hours of sleep. So an honours grade!! My husband in comparison, would get a sleep score of 70 after almost 9 hours of sleep. Passable. I am just so efficient, what can I say? My body clock won’t let me sleep past 7 am most days – if I wake up at 8:30 I have really slept in! Even if I go to bed at 1 am.

In response to my rocking sleep scores, my husband would loving say “B*tch” – haha. For the sake of our marriage, we stopped comparing scores. Don’t worry we’ve been together for almost 40 years, married for 32, we’re in it for the long haul.

But how much sleep does one really need? I know there are studies that show optimum sleep is 7 – 8 for someone my age. I’ve borrowed books about sleep, as if I can do something about it. I suppose I can – but is stressing about the lack of the perfect amount of sleep worth it? For the last couple of years I feel lucky if I get more than 6 hours. I feel refreshed enough. It must be my normal.

So what’s on my agenda today? Double up on the blog posts (this is THE last day so catching up is ok); do some shopping for a Chinese hot pot dinner we’re hosting tonight, so some decluttering to prep for upcoming reno, drop off some donations – and enjoy having all the kids home tonight (including bonus kid, my son’s GF!)

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Thirsty Thursday

I saw this on a list of blog post inspiration, and realized that today I went a little beyond my usual coffee – water – coffee repertoire! I admit, I love my coffee.

First coffee of the day was Balzac’s anniversary blend – it’s a Canadian coffee celebrating 30 years in Canada! Love its notes of chocolate.

Next, my mom and I went out for lunch at a local Chinese restaurant where I had Hong Kong Tea – a traditional tea made of black tea and condensed milk

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I got home and then had a cup of Lipton’s green tea – it’s starting to get cold so it was just what I needed after running errands with Mom.

Then I headed out to dinner with my previous work team – it was so wonderful to see them! I had built our small team from scratch. We had such great times and accomplished so much, just the four of us. And while I moved on earlier this year, they were split up under different managers and now don’t work as a team anymore. A little bittersweet but we made a pact to see each other again in the new year.

I had a nice glass of Jackson Triggs Merlot (a Canadian winery) which went so well with my prime rib.

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And finally, I ended dinner with a lovely Latte!

 

And now, because none of the above was decaffeinated, I will not go to sleep for a long while! Sigh…

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