Poppy Day

November 11 is Remembrance Day here in Canada.

We need to honour past and present military.

For our freedom, and continued democracy.

Especially these days.

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10 Questions for a Sunday

1 – What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
Lack of patience, I am very quick to judge. One of the reasons my word of the year is Kindness. So trying to be better.

2 – What is the trait you most deplore in others?
People being awful to each other and to animals.

3 – Describe yourself in three words
I am trustworthy, conscientious and reliable.

4 – What do you most dislike about your appearance?
I have acne scars which have faded a bit in time but I am sick of covering with makeup. The deeper emotional scars I have from the bullying are still somewhat there.

5 – What is your most unappealing habit?
I tend to interrupt people especially my husband, filling in their sentences with what I know will come next. Because I am rather psychic – and see number 1 above – impatient.

6 – If you could bring something extinct back to life, what would you choose?
The Dodo bird. It just seems really cute.

7 – Who is your celebrity crush?
I do have a thing for fair haired guys – Alexander Skarsgard does it for me. And I’m not THAT much older than he is right? He’s also the most amazing actor, he can be scary, sexy … well, this is 48:

8 – Which book are you ashamed not to have read?
Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen. But I have watched two movie versions. I like both Mr. Darcy’s. I really should also read Age of Innocence, by Edith Wharton.

9 – What is the worst thing anyone’s said to you?

“Go back to China, you’re taking all our jobs” The first blatant racist thing anyone ever said to me. It was 1986, I was in Vancouver for the World Expo. I was 21 years old, born and raised in Canada. It was a shock, and I felt so naive. Unfortunately almost 40 years later these awful sentiments still exist.

10 – What is the most important lesson life has taught you?
You won’t succeed unless you try.

How would you answer these questions? I would love to know!

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Saturday – 5 things

Here are 5 things I am planning today:

1/ Homework! Review my new scene before submission. Work on an analysis of an essay of an essay to present for class “Love in Nine Chapters” by Leonarda Carranza.

2/ Bodyjam ! Dancing with my friends

3/ Hanging out with my daughter home for the weekend

4/ Take the GO train – downtown!

5/ Dinner with cousins

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It’s been a few days…

Interrupting my regularly scheduled post to acknowledge November 5.

I’m not American, I am a northern neighbour. I am disappointed, but not shocked. I captured my thoughts when he was voted in the first time.

There will be ripple effects. Hard to believe that the world is even madder now.

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What I’m watching – Network TV

I grew up in a time when there were 3 major US TV networks, and fewer in Canada. Remember the Battle of the Network Stars? That was a major event for me! With all the choices today from regular cable/ satellite to all the streaming services, my head is just about exploding. Probably because of how much I’m probably spending for the services- Netflix, Apple TV, Disney Plus, Prime Video, yup I’ve got all of those. And I hesitate to give any of them up. The kids have grown up on them and I can’t decide which ones to drop.

Here’s a roundup of a few of my guilty pleasures from Network TV:

1/ The Golden Bachelorette

I watched the early Bachelor series way back when, and found myself watching Joey’s season earlier this year. Don’t even know why as I ended up getting sucked right back into the franchise, and I was hopeful to see the first Asian Bachelorette in history. That ended up being the worst, I felt bad for Jenn Tran, and I swore I would not watch anything to do with the series again.

But it’s insidious, the draw of these shows. Both my husband and I make a night of the Golden Bachlorette, watching Joan and her several suitors every week. It’s all fantasy and so unrealistic, but it does speak to how difficult it is to date/find love at an older age. The season is somewhat sad, not only dealing with loss of life partners through death and divorce; but also how lonely people can get once they’re in the 60s plus. It’s not as easy to make new friends let alone find romantic partners. The best part has been the friendship of the men – it’s refreshing to see genuine emotion and bonding amongst mature men, who aren’t so busy posturing with bravado. They are established and have nothing to prove, but want companionship more than anything else. There is a lot of kindness and grace on this show, at a time when we need plenty of it.

2/ High Potential

This is a great concept. A super intelligent woman who makes a living as a cleaning lady – she’s a single mom with a teen, an adolescent and a baby, who helps police solve crimes because she is always thinking and piecing things together. The acting is great, Kaitlin Olson is hilarious and story lines aren’t bad!

3/ Matlock

I’m old enough to remember the original series with Andy Griffith. This isn’t a reboot, but a new show that refers to the Matlock series, about an older lawyer (Kathy Bates) who gets a job at a law firm working as an intern. It’s rated 100% on Rotten Tomatoes. Some familiar faces, Beau Bridges, Jason Ritter, and a clever twist make this another show that I make sure to PVR. Yes, as if I have time to watch later. Maybe while I keep half an eye on my blog!

I’ll do a run down on shows I am streaming on a future post.

Any other network TV shows you’re watching that I should check out?

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Wordless Wednesday – Gym Vibe

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The art of memoir

Tuesdays are the day that I have my creative writing class through University of Toronto school of continuing studies. I did my undergraduate degree at U of T and I haven’t been in school since I did my MBA 13 years later, to get my mind off of not being able to get pregnant! Well the baby who accompanied me to my graduate convocation is now 24 years old, if that tells you how long it’s been! I told my daughter how stressed I am with homework and submissions on a deadline, so I can relate to her current experience away at university. She’s so sweet, telling me not to be too worried and wishing me luck.

I had a coach at work for the last year, and she asked me at one of our sessions when we talked about life goals, “If you were to do one thing, if you didn’t have to work, nothing else on your plate, nothing to worry about – what would you do? ” I replied, “I would write a book.” This is a bucket list thing for me, and about checking off one of my life goals. Whether I ever publish is another thing. But at least this is a bit of accountability (I said it out loud to someone, so now I have to do something about it).

It’s very convenient to be able to take these programs remotely online. The class is small, there are only 10 of us from across Canada. Our instructor is published author Marina Nemat who is just wonderful.

There seems to be a common theme in memoir or at least the submissions that we have shared with each other, and readings that we are given as examples of the craft. Most seem based on some sort of trauma, harrowing memories and it has come up as to whether memoirs are always about past pain and sad/horrible events. Memoirs aren’t autobiographies, they are meant to be based on memories, feelings and emotions. Very personal. Perhaps it’s not unusual then, since pain is so deeply sensed, physically and emotionally. There’s also a lot more creative writing involved than I had initially thought – it’s not random musings captured as stream of consciousness typing on the laptop, which I typically write in a blog post. Writing memoir is about making your reader feel and sense what you were going through at the time of your experience. It’s a lot harder than I thought!

But it has instilled in me a renewed love of creative writing, and it’s helpful that the subject matter is something I am expert in, ie Me. I’m already looking at the next course to learn more about creative writing in general, perhaps explore other genres.

So I ask you, is there anything that you would like to do that you haven’t yet done? If you didn’t have to work, didn’t have any other distractions, what would you do?

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To Be Read…

What books do I have currently borrowed from the library?

Heart on My Sleeve – Stories From a Life Well Worn – by Jeanne Beker

A memoir by a Canadian icon – I have admired her since her “New Music” days, watched as she established Fashion Television, interviewed supermodels and designers, globe trotting with her microphone. Making fashion approachable, which I just gobbled up. She was recently treated for breast cancer and has been very open with her journey. I am looking forward to this!

We Use to Live Here – Marcus Kliewer

A modern horror story, I heard about it on the radio. Another Canadian read I am looking forward to.

Conversations on Love – Natasha Lunn

Something different for me. It has great reviews on Goodreads and seems uplifting.

How I will get through these while blogging and writing it remains to be seen.

What is on your to be read list?

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Girl Bands

It all started with these girls:

I was obsessed the Go Go’s in high school, “Our Lips are Sealed” became an anthem of sorts for me. I was the first on the dance floor whenever they came on at school dances, at house parties. At the time I didn’t appreciate how punk they were. Naturally, I picked this t-shirt up when we went to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland a couple of summers ago. If they ever tour up in Canada again I would love to see them, I have never seen them live. Belinda Carlisle is currently on a solo tour, but I need them all together.

I graduated to the Breeders in the early 90s, “Cannon Ball” and “Divine Hammer” . Instant classics for me.

Celebrating Canadian indie talent (yes, I bought the T shirts):

Tegan and Sarah – they had an acoustic tour this year up in my neck of the woods. Talented twins, hilarious and brilliant.

Metric – not technically a girl band, but headed up by the wonderful Emily Haines, such a distinct voice. I saw them live about 20 years ago. I wanted to see them in concert this past year, but affordable tickets were gone before I made it past the waiting area on Ticketmaster. Sigh.

Dear Rouge – also not technically a girl band, but a husband and wife duo. Drew and Danielle. My gosh, what an electric band live! They also came up to my area a couple of weeks ago. Things looking up in the burbs!

The future is bright for girl bands. Lately I’m loving the Beaches (Canadian girls from Toronto),

the Linda Lindas (Asian girl band from LA, they played with Green Day up here recently. I think the eldest band member is 20 years old. Wow.

And a new group on my playlist, Wet Leg.

Who are you listening to lately?

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Saturday – 5 things

Saturday is usually a BodyJam day for me, the hip-hop dance workout that I’ve been enjoying for almost 20 years, and certified to teach until Covid shut it all down. There wasn’t enough interest after Covid, I was one of the 500 Goodlife employees laid off by email. No matter I still stalk my instructor friends at their classes, sometimes joining them on stage, but it is more fun to participate rather than have to review choreography all the time.

Today was a bit different from the ordinary. We were supposed to see Sarah McLachlan last night, but she postponed the Canadian leg of her Fumbling Towards Ecstasy tour last minute due to laryngitis. I was rather bummed about that, as we missed her when she came in the summer and the tickets were astronomically expensive for Budweiser stage. So when her fall US/Canada tour was announced I got right on Ticketmaster as soon as I could and scored pretty decent tickets at Casino Rama, 90 minutes just north of us. The important thing is her voice, so I hope the rescheduled dates work for us. To be honest, it worked out OK as I had a baby shower to attend downtown, so that saved a bit of running around first thing this morning.

1/ So the first thing I did was get dressed to go to a baby shower! What does one wear to a baby shower these days? I live in sweats and workout clothes but have tons of dresses and outfits in my closet that I never wear anymore. And heels? Don’t bother getting into those, even if I could still stand on them. I didn’t want to wear any work type outfits either, those that I had for the last few years whenever I went to local or head office.

This is what I ended up wearing; Moto-Little House on the Prairie vibes I know. It was comfy.

What a gorgeous presentation!

2/ Duolingo – I started practicing French in March in preparation for our May trip, and worked my way up to level 65 now, on a 214 day streak. I have a minor degree in French but it is so rusty as I got my degree over 30 years ago – gulp. It did come in handy for directions when we were in Nice, but I got lazy as most folks understood English. Nevertheless I hope to go back next year,

3/ Wordle – got it in 3. My stats aren’t too bad:

4/ Connections – got it.

5/ Like a dutiful Canadian, I’m watching the Leafs play the Blues, with our old man Cody. He turned 16 last weekend. He’s blind, a little deaf, has been fighting cancer for 2 years and getting more confused. But he’s our little sweetheart and sits here in his favourite spot:

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